A good question to ask is: What is possible?
When I grew up, I watched people in relationships and didn’t like what I saw. They seemed angry and stuck and unhappy. I wanted to create something different. It took me a long time to realize that I could choose something else.
Once I found my Aliveness and was truly living in choice and allowance, I didn’t want to lose the wonderful way it made me feel. I didn’t want to lose my freedom by trading it for someone else’s version of how to live my life.
Many people don’t think relationship is a safe place. They may have had a bad experience and have decided that it is safer to be alone. I decided that I wanted to have a partner, an ally in life. I wanted someone to help break the patterns of judgment and enjoy aliveness with me.
I wanted a playmate; a partner.
If you haven’t taken the time to cultivate self intimacy and you are entering into a relationship, take the time to do it. When you start a relationship, bring yourself along. All of your aliveness. Be there for yourself, have your own back, trust your authority.