Everyone has one. Debris is the junk that we all carry around with us. It is made up of past experiences, trauma, and pain that has resulted from living our lives. We don’t come with debris. We arrive full of joy, excited and curious about everything.. The debris accumulates as we hide and tell our selves stories, we internalize programming and expectations.
Your debris field is the emotional junk that you carry around.
It’s a bit like pigpen, we travelled around with this dusty debris following us. The debris interacts with itself, making it larger. It can also interact with other people’s debris field, which can cause huge problems in a relationship.
One of the biggest debris fields you will ever have to navigate is your own. Especially the debris of judgment. When we judge or argue with others, most likely it is our own debris which is causing the disagreement. We think we need to fight with the other person to prove them wrong, but we are just fighting with our own debris.
It’s your own shit my friend.
You are just fighting with your own debris, people. It’s never, ever about anyone one else.
Acknowledging your own debris is like a good shit. Let it go.
In stead of holding on to all those beliefs and programming, just let it go.
When you step on a land mine in your debris field, have gratitude and appreciation with yourself. Just acknowledge it and say – I’m working on my debris. I will step on the land mines as I go. That’s allowed. Acknowledge the debris. And when you find that your debris has triggered you, be curious.
Play with it. Exaggerate the emotion or the feeling. If you are triggered into being a victim, be the sorriest victim ever. Or be the worst bitch in the world. Do it with someone that is willing to play along. You will find that you end up laughing at your ridiculousness and when you can get there, the debris goes away.
Sometimes a change in your orientation, or how you view the world, can make debris disappear. If you change your view point from being a victim, all those stories you used to tell yourself about that, will no longer be useful. Those stories will just slip away.
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